September 10, 2006

Come to Jesus

Whenever things come to a point where a confrontation is needed, when the pure and simple truth of reality can no longer be avoided it's time for a come to Jesus meeting.

When it comes to romance, along with a whole lot of really great and wonderful things, I bring a couple of pretty consistent errors in judgment.

First, I'm not very open about my feelings. I don't always voice my concerns about things. I also don't take compliments well. And I don't do a good job of voicing what value my partner brings to my life.

Clearly, these are issues that affect a person in more areas than just romance, so it's something I'm concentrating on in my life.

Second, I extend too much benefit of the doubt to other people and my incompatibility with me. That's a nice way of saying that I sometimes date people who aren't right for me even after I'm aware of the fact that they aren't right for me.

I'm not, as usual, going to go into details, but I ended another romance today.

Again, there are things about him I will miss and I learned a few things about myself and what I'm looking for in a relationship.

A while back, some of you may have seen a post that I removed later in the same day about this same relationship ending suddenly. It turned out to be a misunderstanding, but I was genuinely sad about it. I regretted what I think were mistakes I was making. Anyway, he and I worked through that conflict, but that obviously doesn't mean things could last.

Anyway, since then I came to the conclusion that he and I are not ultimately compatible. As a friend of mine put it: "If he's not the one, he's not the one."

But on the upside, I feel very liberated and confident in this decision. I also think that this marks a new chapter in terms of my romantic life and things are going to get better.

That is, naturally, up to me.

Posted by Flibbertigibbet at September 10, 2006 04:52 PM | TrackBack