Flibbertigibbet

It Should Go Without Saying

I was just listening to the radio and this lady called into the show and told a story about how her fiance left her when she was five months pregnant.

Let me say that again in different words. The two people entered into a romantic relationship and concieved a child and then the male terminated the relationship.

I have two thoughts on this.

First, whatever the condition of your relationship with another you are not morally bound to continue that relationship without regard to the condition of that relationship. In fact, I would even argue that relationships can ONLY continue with due respect to the various conditions surrounding the relationship.

I love kids. I think they're wonderful. I also have a great deal of respect for the parental occupation. And I am amazed by the biological process of pregnancy and birth, not to mention the subsequent development and progress of both parent and child.

But if you have ever known a pregnant lady, you know that some of them, particularly those late in term, can be completely insane and quite unpleasant. So, I can understand why someone might feel compelled to terminate relationships with their pregnant ladies.

But my second thought is this:

If you cannot understand why pregnant ladies get so unpleasant sometimes, look at a very pregnant lady and contemplate the location of her internal organs. Where are her lungs? Kidneys? Intestines? All those things are smooshed into various corners of her body to make space for that child. I can't possibly know what it's like, but I get a little crabby even from a little constipation, so the pregnant situation it a bit odd for me to even ponder.

And that doesn't even begin to list the number of things that are pressing on that woman's mind and person during this time in her life.

What kind of schmuck makes a baby but doesn't even stick it out through the pregnancy? He's not even carrying the child! I'm not saying that it's easy, but making babies is a really important and, yes, difficult, life-altering decision. You don't just go about that and then blithely take to the street when you get cross.

Generally speaking, I think guys who leave their pregnant ladies are cads. Totally lame.