February 23, 2009
But I reeeaaallly would like to have someone of my own, too! There are lots of advantages to having a special someone and surely I don't have to list them. But there are. LOTS.
I broke up with Mister Bookworm in October... of 2007. I've had a couple of first dates since then, but nothing beyond that. And it would be nice to have prospects that have a bit more promise than my daily subway crushes.
Of course, I bring this up just because I feel like whining about it because I feel particularly lonely this evening.
I was chatting with Kevin this evening about this and he said I am surely doing something wrong.
I mean, this is New York. There are TONS of gay guys here. HOT gay guys. And in spite of what one might be led to believe based on the sort of people who most often visit our apartment, lots of them work in fields other than theater and have great careers.
And also there are certainly more Objectivists here than I've seen. There definitely have to be more gay Objectivists. HOT gay Objectivists who are my age and good careers. There just have to be.
So, I can see why one might think I'm doing something wrong.
If I'm frank, I could probably do more. I have a tendency to do my own thing and spend a lot of time alone. Spending time alone is not a good tactic for meeting people of any persuasion.
Meeting Objectivists is more difficult.
Obviously, participating in the NY Objectivist group does provide some opportunity to meet people, but there aren't many gays in the group. That's fine because romance is not my primary motivation for attending the group.
There's OCON, too. I've heard lots of gays show up there, but I don't know how many of them are from the NY area. My friend, The Blogless Fourth Axiom, met his boyfriend there. I still haven't decided about going yet. It's REALLY expensive.
I just think there have to be some other, more direct tactics for meeting gay Objectivists here in NYC. I don't think about finding a boyfriend enough to launch an extended strategy to that end. This is a topic that just crosses my mind every now and then, so whatever I figure out has to function within my somewhat passing interest in romance otherwise I will continue to bitch about this while doing nothing to help things along. But that's OK, right? I mean, that's why I have a blog!
Posted by: Mark Wickens at February 23, 2009 09:27 AM (8tGIB)
Posted by: Flibbert at February 23, 2009 01:14 PM (ErOeR)
I sympathize. Being prodigal has put me in a place of penury and I would like to go to OCON for similar reasons.
I hope you do go for love of virtues is a great bond for any relationship. I know from my experience that I greatly enjoy around affable people who simply share my hobbies, but I still prefer the company of my best friend, despite sharing few hobbies, because he and I love the same virtues (reason and liberty). OCON probably would allow you to meet the one who meet all your virtues and then some. May your continued endeavor be prosperous.
Posted by: Andrew Baker at February 24, 2009 12:23 AM (bVVsH)
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